The Company You Keep/ Checking Your Circle
When God shapes your mind you choose virtue over sin
You start feeling like a square despite the circle that your in
He said come out from among them and be ye separate
Ok sooo on my spiritual journey I have come across the term "unequally yoked" quite a bit.
And many of us know this term biblically in terms of marriage.
But for me, since I'm applying the bible to all aspects of my life, it made me reflect on all my relationships. (friends, family, associates)
For the record
What is unequally yoked?Definition of YOKE: (from Latin to join) – a wooden bar or frame by which two draft animals (as oxen) are joined at the heads or necks for working together. (From Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary)
The bible uses beasts of burden as an example of yoking. For instance, if a donkey and an ox are yoked together (which God forbid the people to do in Deuteronomy 22:10), the yoke will weigh more heavily on one animal and while pulling or choking the other animal that is bigger and has the longer stride. If an animal is yoked with a like animal of approximately the same size and weight, they will be able to work in conjunction with each other, helping each other out.In scripture, we are command not be unequally yoked or bound together. Many Christians believe it is limited to marriage — but it is not. We are not to attach ourselves to relationships that are unequally yoked (believers versus non believers).
If we are equally yoked, we work in conjunction with each other. By the same token, if we are unequally yoked, one is dragging the other for the unbeliever walks in darkness and the believer in light.
Well. Now I know that may have been a lot to take in, so let me break it down even further.
Look at the type of person you are, then look at the type of friends/family/associates you have.
Are they on the same level doing the same things, are they moving and progressing in the direction you would like to be moving yourself?
Or
Are you the smart one among the group of dummies?Are you the one who is about your business in a group of do nothing's?These would be examples of being "un equally yoked"
Because being the smart one among the dummies isn't saying much, neither is being about your business if the rest of the crew is doing absolutely nothing.
And this type of thing can lead to guilt by association. The whole birds of a feather thing. Which is a whole other can of worms.
We as young adults need to start checking our circles. As we start to really come into ourselves and the persons we want to evolve into. Do these "friends" fit into that equation?
Even as older adults who have come to a point of change and progression.
We must truly come to terms with the fact that some people are good traveling companions, but are best left at the bottom of the mountain.
I know I know that can come across as harsh, but......
Is it conducive to stagnant your growth and progression for someone else who is content in their own complacency?
Now everyone's path is not the same, and everyone doesn't find themselves at the same point in life.
But why would you knowingly hold yourself back?
Many of us can't even admit at one time or another we were in fact holding ourselves back!
We weren't created to be mediocre.
The people we align ourselves with plays a very present factor in many of us not reaching our potential.
Negative attracts negative. If you have someone who has a negative spirit about Everything! After awhile you will have taken on the yoke of their negativity without even realizing, because it has become the norm.
Remember when you were a kid and telling your parents " but all my friends are doing it" and they responded " well maybe you need New friends"
*Light Bulb* somebody!!!!!!!
Sometimes we have to " Separate To See" -Kid FurySometimes you are so deep into something and been doing the same thing for soooooooo long. You can't see.
It's getting you nowhere
It's bearing no fruit
That person is really a Hater!
Lose the "But we've been friends since the womb"mindset
What can you Honestly say this friendship has done that was beneficial to you progressing to any goals you have set for yourself?
We have to stop being afraid to upset the group because we have finally embraced that we are different, and want to pursue what being our individual unique selves has to offer.
Please know that a true friend will embrace whatever it is you are doing, as long as you aren't hurting others or yourself, and it isn't illegal.
If you tell your "friend " something positive and empowering that you have going on in your life and they have Nothing to say, no feedback, no positivity. Drop them quick!!!!!!
Still wondering why your not getting anywhere? Why none of your plans are coming to pass?
Seriously check your circle!
Cause if your hanging with the Do Nothing's 9xs out of 10 you have fallen into the Do Nothing rut right with them. Guilty by Association.If you have been hanging with the same people for many years and are feeling stifled or boxed in. Those are signs that it's time for change.
Sometimes we grow past people.
And sometimes people are only meant to be in our lives for a season.
Stop keeping people past their season. Cause anything past it's season is rotten anyway!
ByTheWay........You must set godly standards and you must uphold them, to prevent getting involved with the wrong people. The enemy will make sure to place great candidates in your path; that will say the right things and seem perfect but will end up causing you pain, heartache and disillusionment. God will protect you against such people but don't make it more difficult by stepping out of His will.
When God shapes your mind you choose virtue over sin
You start feeling like a square despite the circle that your in
He said come out from among them and be ye separate
Ok sooo on my spiritual journey I have come across the term "unequally yoked" quite a bit.
And many of us know this term biblically in terms of marriage.
But for me, since I'm applying the bible to all aspects of my life, it made me reflect on all my relationships. (friends, family, associates)
For the record
What is unequally yoked?Definition of YOKE: (from Latin to join) – a wooden bar or frame by which two draft animals (as oxen) are joined at the heads or necks for working together. (From Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary)
The bible uses beasts of burden as an example of yoking. For instance, if a donkey and an ox are yoked together (which God forbid the people to do in Deuteronomy 22:10), the yoke will weigh more heavily on one animal and while pulling or choking the other animal that is bigger and has the longer stride. If an animal is yoked with a like animal of approximately the same size and weight, they will be able to work in conjunction with each other, helping each other out.In scripture, we are command not be unequally yoked or bound together. Many Christians believe it is limited to marriage — but it is not. We are not to attach ourselves to relationships that are unequally yoked (believers versus non believers).
If we are equally yoked, we work in conjunction with each other. By the same token, if we are unequally yoked, one is dragging the other for the unbeliever walks in darkness and the believer in light.
Well. Now I know that may have been a lot to take in, so let me break it down even further.
Look at the type of person you are, then look at the type of friends/family/associates you have.
Are they on the same level doing the same things, are they moving and progressing in the direction you would like to be moving yourself?
Or
Are you the smart one among the group of dummies?Are you the one who is about your business in a group of do nothing's?These would be examples of being "un equally yoked"
Because being the smart one among the dummies isn't saying much, neither is being about your business if the rest of the crew is doing absolutely nothing.
And this type of thing can lead to guilt by association. The whole birds of a feather thing. Which is a whole other can of worms.
We as young adults need to start checking our circles. As we start to really come into ourselves and the persons we want to evolve into. Do these "friends" fit into that equation?
Even as older adults who have come to a point of change and progression.
We must truly come to terms with the fact that some people are good traveling companions, but are best left at the bottom of the mountain.
I know I know that can come across as harsh, but......
Is it conducive to stagnant your growth and progression for someone else who is content in their own complacency?
Now everyone's path is not the same, and everyone doesn't find themselves at the same point in life.
But why would you knowingly hold yourself back?
Many of us can't even admit at one time or another we were in fact holding ourselves back!
We weren't created to be mediocre.
The people we align ourselves with plays a very present factor in many of us not reaching our potential.
Negative attracts negative. If you have someone who has a negative spirit about Everything! After awhile you will have taken on the yoke of their negativity without even realizing, because it has become the norm.
Remember when you were a kid and telling your parents " but all my friends are doing it" and they responded " well maybe you need New friends"
*Light Bulb* somebody!!!!!!!
Sometimes we have to " Separate To See" -Kid FurySometimes you are so deep into something and been doing the same thing for soooooooo long. You can't see.
It's getting you nowhere
It's bearing no fruit
That person is really a Hater!
Lose the "But we've been friends since the womb"mindset
What can you Honestly say this friendship has done that was beneficial to you progressing to any goals you have set for yourself?
We have to stop being afraid to upset the group because we have finally embraced that we are different, and want to pursue what being our individual unique selves has to offer.
Please know that a true friend will embrace whatever it is you are doing, as long as you aren't hurting others or yourself, and it isn't illegal.
If you tell your "friend " something positive and empowering that you have going on in your life and they have Nothing to say, no feedback, no positivity. Drop them quick!!!!!!
Still wondering why your not getting anywhere? Why none of your plans are coming to pass?
Seriously check your circle!
Cause if your hanging with the Do Nothing's 9xs out of 10 you have fallen into the Do Nothing rut right with them. Guilty by Association.If you have been hanging with the same people for many years and are feeling stifled or boxed in. Those are signs that it's time for change.
Sometimes we grow past people.
And sometimes people are only meant to be in our lives for a season.
Stop keeping people past their season. Cause anything past it's season is rotten anyway!
ByTheWay........You must set godly standards and you must uphold them, to prevent getting involved with the wrong people. The enemy will make sure to place great candidates in your path; that will say the right things and seem perfect but will end up causing you pain, heartache and disillusionment. God will protect you against such people but don't make it more difficult by stepping out of His will.
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