Blame The World Syndrome I will start by saying this "when you go to point the finger remember pointing that 1 at someone else leaves 3 pointing back at you" Its sadly coming to my attention that the "Blame The World Syndrome" is spreading. It seems as no one is immune. As adults we really must take a long hard look in our mirrors! (find your mirror! Thanks Gwen) Who is it thats staring back at you? Is it someone to be proud of?    Is it someone you cant even bear to look square in the eyes? A person full of shame and regret? With the new year fast approaching many of us are reflective on our lives and the past years progressions and mis-steps. But what we must realize we cant beat our selves up because things didnt go as planned. Remember what they say "You wanna make God laugh, tell him your plans" But with that being said we also mustnt place the blame on others for our misfortunes. Its becoming the norm that rather than man/woman up we ar...

I have touched on this topic in the past, and due to current events felt the need to revisit it. In the year 2011 I have come across many situations that have made me ask the question, "where are all the real women?" In a time downtrodden with the insurgence of reality television. The images of Real Women doing Real things are few and far in between. It seems as society has embraced the images of women fighting and gossiping and crabbing* each other as the norm. But did I miss the memo or something? I wasn't aware that this was the way to carry yourself as a woman, a mother, a sista, a friend...ect. Since when did it become ok to not be happy with yourself so you drag down every and anyone around you? Quoting Basketball Wives, Love & Hip Hop, and Nicki Minaj like its sacred grail. Catchy one liners for tee shirts is not what life should be made of. There was a time when a Woman could compliment another Woman not knowing her personally, but just out of respect...

I've been doing a lot of reading lately and in my studies, I've come across this on more than one occasion. In life are we giving the Devil (The Enemy) too much credit? Are you the type of person that every time something goes wrong, you blame it on the Devil. You know exactly what I'm talking about, your friends and family are hating (as usual), your kids acting up, your relationship falling apart....."that ain't nothing but the devil" I can honestly sayi have been guilty of this. But on this day I want to express a new way of thinking. I read last night in Tyrese Gibson's book How To Get Out Of Your Own Way That we need to stop giving the Devil credit when things go wrong. Every time we acknowledge his activity it's like giving him praise! And who wants to praise that Dude seriously! Before reading this my understanding of the matter was, No every time something goes wrong it isn't the Devil and it doesn't mean that the world is out to...

T.G.I.F Thank God I'm Fabulous! Now I must say over time I've gotten a lot of flack for Thanking God for being Fabulous.So with today being Friday, I thought it proper to address this once and for all. Some folks believe I should say Thank Goodness. Now that's all well and good for those of you who wanna thank goodness. But as for me, this here is nothing but GODS doing! We are all created in Gods image. Now what you have chosen to do with that image thru the course of your life is on you. It's by the Grace of GOD not GOODNESS that I am the person I am. So by all means I will Thank GOD. Sooooo TGIF People! THANK GOD IM FABULOUS!!!!! Have a Blessed Fabulous Weekend.

Often times we must go through some things to get to some things. And during these times of adversity, we have to take the experience and see it for what its worth.  Going through something is exactly that, Going Through! Its not the end, often times it is the beginning. Things fall apart to make room for the new and improved. Its like a tunnel You Have To Go Through to reach the other side. No way around it. The things we go through are often preparation for whats ahead.   I will Leave you with this No Gaul No Glory  No Thorns No Throne No Pain No Psalm No Cross No Crown! We have all had our crosses to bear, sooo learn the lesson and turn what was your mess into your message!

Self Esteem, simple concept right? I wonder? I once heard a comic say "How can I mess up how you feel about you?" And he was right how can another person mess up how you feel about yourself? Simple if the bad feelings are already there, then what others say just adds fuel to the already burning flames. What others think about you is none of your business. Your opinion of yourself is what matters. So keep a positive outlook about yourself flaws and all! Show yourself Love! Pat yourself on the back and say "Good Job" Don't wait for others to validate your worth. Your worth is based on you and not them! There is nothing wrong with buying yourself flowers or treating yourself to something nice.  Don't let the opinions of others spoil who you are. Remember this They Hate you because They Ain't You!

Inspiration is a funny thing, because its individual. Different things Inspire us in different ways.  In order to keep the Inspiration flowing we must surround ourselves with the images that inspire us. May it be Quotes, Pictures, etc.  I keep my Inspiration by keeping a Vision Board in my bed room. Its filled with pictures of people who inspire me, my goals lists, things I want to try for the first time. Having these things in plain sight makes it easier to focus in on them, and not get caught up in the negative things. This may not work for you but its just a suggestion. Don't be afraid to think outside the box and be inspired!

1.   When you’re up your friends know who you are! When you’re down you know who your friends are! 2.   Be ever so content with what you have! (Don’t be a slave to what you Crave) 3.   A Day without prayer is a boast against GOD! 4.   Sometimes we need to stop struggling and just ask God for Grace. Grace is defined as unmerited, undeserved FAVOR. 5.   Being Positive is a CHOICE! Atmosphere filled with negativity leaves a heavy burden! 6.   It is not disrespectful to fail, but to lie there and Grunt is! 7.   The only reason people would ever try to bring you down is down is because; you’re so high up they can’t see you. 8.   There is no spot where GOD is Not! 9.   When it is all said and done, Never let more be said than done. 10.               Peace on the outside comes from knowing GOD on the Inside. 11.               If people are hating on you (Don’t Worry) you’re up for a promotion. The great are often the targets for HATE. 12.               The Problem with haters is t...

Therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God; this is your spiritual worship.  Romans 12:1 Take a moment, How have you been treating your body? Do you treat it with the respect that it deserves. Your body is the vehicle that carries you through this journey we call life. What are you fueling your vehicle with. Think of it like this....If you were driving a top of the line automobile wouldn't you be gassing up with the premium stuff and not the cheap synthetic? So what you body isn't good enough for premium as well?We currently live in a fast food world. You can be in it and not of it. Don't be a slave to what you crave. Poor eating habits are usually well established so to change them will be far from easy. But anything worth having is worth fighting and working for. I will leave you with this  Eat to live, don't live to Eat Our bodies are like armor, our soul like the warrior. Take...

Let the Past Be the Past “Make peace with your past. We are the sum of our experiences. Were not for those experiences, you would not be the person you are today. I believe we are all born with the ability to turn our difficulties into opportunities. In owning all of it, I value the experiences, good and not-so-good, as blessings which ultimately created me, the person I am today. Without shame, I fully own my name, who I was, and who I am today.” ~ Patricia Bonelli  Who has your past made you into?  All experience good and bad can be used for the benefit of your life.  Because when one door closes another ultimately opens.  How can you grab all of what's in store for you if your hands are full of the Past!  We remember our past, we don't have to take up residence there.  Holding on to a broken relationship stunts our growth. You don't get points from The Uni-verse for how much you suffer. The Uni-verse wants to deliver to you all that your heart desires. God wi...

Are you a Thermometer or a Thermostat? Don't become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking."Romans 12:2 TM Don't be a thermometer, be a thermostat. Thermometers just reflect the climate around them - thermostats set it. Actually, they lift it! Most of us are like thermometers reflecting the culture around us. We buy things others buy, say things others say, wear things others wear, and value things others value. Oh, there are slight variations, but most of the time we don't set the climate for the world we live in; we simply adjust to it. But not overcomers! No, they take life to the next level. They become thermostats and change the environment in which they're placed. For instance, you may know people who raise the Spiritual temperature of a group or determine the attitudes of others just by being present. They're pacesetters. They influence, rather than merely allowing others to influence them. Paul's challenge to ...

We all have heard the saying time and time again "Misery Loves Company" But do we really get what it means? Now most people aren't ever going to admit they are miserable. As I have said in the past many of us live behind masks. Because we don't want others to know that deep down we do suffer. Now with that being said, I have had to learn the hard way that a lot of us don't know how to handle our dissatisfaction with life. As I have also said before Happiness isn't a destination but a choice! Negative energy spreads faster than Cancer! Negative people will infect you with their bad aura so easily and you sometimes won't even realize what has come over you. Have you ever sat and listened to a friend go on and on about their negative situation and by the end of the conversation Your whole attitude has changed. Consider yourself INFECTED! We must learn to protect our spirits. And in protecting our spirits sometimes it means cutting off some friends...

Whats on your mind? Where do your thoughts dwell? Our thoughts have the ability to make us and break us. When you are overly negative, you sabotage yourself from getting to a better place. We all have a story. Some of us have been thru the fire....literally But the fact that we have made it thru is what should be applauded. Taking your mess and turning it into a message, is an awesome way to share the blessing. Because we are blessed in order to bless others. So pay it forward! This is something that is much more easier said than done. But in the book of life how long do you plan to re-read the same page? And will re-reading the page change what's already written? Wake up to the blessing of a new day, and turn the page! Where you start doesn't determine where you finish, unless you choose to let it. ByTheWay.....In life we aren't given what we want we are given what we need in order to create the life we want.

Life is a journey. We are like a CASSETTE PLAYER. It has Play, Rewind, Forward, Record, Eject and Pause. Most of the times we are PLAYING are life journey, sometimes we REWIND our Past, Also we FAST FORWARD for our dreams and ambitions, We also RECORD most of our experiences. But if you have problems in life, just PAUSE..... But never ever touch the EJECT because that is withdrawal from one's happiness, or even quitting from one's life. PERSONS ARE GIFTS FROM GOD TO US...We are all gifts wrapped with different wrappers and colors. But whether you are wrapped with SPECIAL DELIVERY or ORDINARY PAPER, it's not a big deal because what is important.....you are wrapped with LOVE. You are a person, you are a gift

 "Destined" We are all Destined to be Great! For it is written. But at times we tend to let it pass us by. Opportunity doesnt come knocking dressed to the nines but in dusty overalls! And because of this most of us never answer the door! Afraid to put forth the effort. Do what you do Well. Dont spend your life trying to do what you arent gifted for. Your on the right path when what you do ministers life to others. If what we do fills us with a sense of dread its possible your on the wrong path. Live a purpose driven life! for it is Destined!

Those 3 wise monkeys  had the right idea....See no Evil,Hear No Evil, Speak No Evil. And you probably wonder how this pertains to Real Life? The Things you See, will affect you. The Things you Hear, will affect you. And the Things you Say, will definitely affect you. To add insult to injury your seeing, hearing and speaking things that are Evil? Now what type of affect do you really think that will have on you? Lets be honest. If you never sow the seed of negative thought you never have to reap the weed of negative result! Negative attracts Negative as Positive attracts Positive! So Lets train our minds to attract some Positive. Think Good Thoughts Speak Good Words Take Good Actions ByTheWay....Did you know That it takes 26 muscles to Smile, and 62 to Frown!?! Share a Smile it doesn't take much, to brighten a day!

Don't Find Fault! Find Remedy! Anybody Can Sit Back and COMPLAIN! If your displeased by something, stand up and take action! You know what they say if you stand for nothing you will fall for anything! So set your sites on the goal ahead and F.O.C.U.S Follow.One.Course.Until.Successful All you need is a lil Focus it goes a long way....

F.E.A.R. False.Evidence.Appearing.Real. We Fear what we don't understand. We Fear what is different, and foreign to us. Fear will hinder growth. Fear will leave life stagnant. Fear is the lack of knowledge about something. So let us stop giving into Fear, and educate ourselves! As they say Knowledge is Power Power over Fear!!!!! Never let Fear get the Best of you. Expand your horizons......The possibilities are limitless ByTheWay....Most of our shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine

Who Are You? Simple Question right......... Not Quite Because too many of us live life behind the masks of what we feel others want to see, or being what others want us to be. But what happens to the person you were created to be. Be yourself, everyone else is taken! I'm on a journey and I'm fully aware that its a journey that I may have to walk alone. And that's fine. Because if I cant stand for something I will fall for anything. And when you stand for something sometimes it means standing alone! My journey is into a new and glorious dawn. All that is darkness is left behind. I'm striving to be the best me I can be. And that means being true to myself, flaws and all. What many of us have to realize is that Happiness comes from within. And living life behind a mask will never allow you to be truly happy. Happiness isn't a destination! (your gps wont get you there) Happiness is a choice What are you choosing? ByTheWay....If you need encouragement, prai...